individual and couples
Sex Therapy
For single or coupled adults struggling with low or mismatched sexual desire, performance issues, painful sex, infidelity, open relationships, body image, and more.
FOR INDIVIDUALS
You wish your sex life was different.
Intimacy or sex drive isn’t what it used to be. You’re tired of stumbling through conversations about sex. When it comes to stating your sexual needs to a partner, you don’t know where to start. You know it’s possible to feel comfortable, confident, and empowered in your sexuality, but you’ve never been able to get there.
We know that societal narratives, family messages, biological blueprints, intimate relationships, and traumas influence the development of our sexuality. Regardless of what your current relationship with sex looks like, most of us enter adulthood with some pretty unhelpful beliefs, which often translate to unfulfilling or difficult sex lives.
I’m here to help you understand your beliefs and attitudes about sex to help you shift from performance-based sex to pleasure-based sex.
SEX THERAPY FOR SINGLE ADULTS
How it works
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We’ll start where you are. We’ll talk about what’s been happening in your life lately and how that’s been affecting you and your important relationships. I’ll get to know your family of origin and talk through childhood, relationships, career, and significant events that have occurred. Then, we'll focus on overt and covert messages regarding sexuality, throughout the various systems of your life. This will really allow me to understand you, within the context of your world.
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Then, we’ll start to explore the emotions and experiences that are problematic for you and learn how they came to be. We’ll start to connect them back to the attachment significance, needs, and injury. We’ll talk through awareness of and feelings about one's body and then shift into talking about sexual intimacy.
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Through an EFT lens while focusing on sexuality, I’ll help you start accessing the primary emotions that are really underneath the secondary emotions we often show first. Your emotions will stop acting as powerful, uncontrollable wounds that limit you from feeling resilient, confident, comforted, and genuinely connected to others. Instead, you’ll start to identify these difficult emotions as information to help you become more comfortable in your vulnerability and be more present with feelings and needs.
FOR COUPLES
When was the last time you passionately kissed your partner?
In many ways, sex feels like an obligation or a chore. Maybe it’s the only time you feel connected to your partner. Maybe you never quite feel as satisfied as you want to when you have sex. Sadness, shame, and anxiety have become all too familiar because you miss the earlier months and years of your sex life, where it felt more frequent, fun, spontaneous, and enjoyable.
It feels like you're never quite on the same page with desire, as one partner has become all too familiar with initiating and oftentimes being rejected. One or both of you might be asking yourself, "Is my partner not sexually attracted to me anymore?" or "When did our sex life become so predictable and lose the passion" or "Is this the best it's ever going to be? Will we always fight about lack of sexual connection?"
Regardless of how your sexual struggles are presenting themselves, I can help. As a Sex Therapist, I can help you and your partner talk about sex and make sense of the situation in a healthy, productive way so that your sexual relationship returns to a more fulfilling, pleasurable place.
SEX THERAPY FOR COUPLES
How it works
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We’ll start by meeting together to talk about the ways in which you’ve been struggling as a couple. Both of you will have the opportunity to share your perceptions of problems and strengths within your relationship. We’ll explore what being physically and sexually close means to both of you while identifying the ways that you interact with one another.
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Then, we will have two individual sessions to explore attachment history and explore individual sexual history. During these sessions, we’ll highlight and define relationship history and key events, while holding space to understand attachment history and needs. We will work to identify the positive and negative cycles within your relationship.
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Through an EFT lens, we’ll focus on sex therapy as we identify your unhelpful pattern(s) and find ways to disrupt this dynamic. I’ll help you create ways to become accessible, responsive, and engaged with your emotional and sexual needs so that your sexual relationship improves.
Transform your sex life.
Sex therapy can help you go from underwhelmed and unfulfilled to satisfied, vibrant, and connected.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Sex Therapy is an intensive psychotherapy specialization with a focus on sexual health, sexuality, sexual issues and concerns. In an ideal world, sex would not be veiled in secrecy, it would be taught comprehensively with evidence based research and wouldn't be an ambivalent part of identity and relational dynamics. Whole health, also includes an emphasis on sexual health and sexual health is equally as important to emotional, psychological, financial and physical health. We know through research that relational and sexual satisfaction are reciprocally interconnected.
Together we will unlearn and dismantle all the "should's" you hold around myths and beliefs of what is "normal." Discovering your sexual health that allows clients to experience desire and arousal, clearly communicate sexual needs, interest and boundaries. While enhancing your sexual understanding, emotional intimacy and confidence towards pleasurable, consensual, safe and emotionally connected sex life.
I am a sex-positive therapist and believe that every individual has the right to consensual, safe, pleasurable sex. I don't subscribe to the idea that sex should be a chore/obligation, monotonous, passionless experience. Or the only way you feel connected to your partner. That's unhealthy, let's disrupt this pattern!
As a Sex Therapist I work in collaboration with medical providers (urologist, pelvic floor specialist, gynecologist) across specialities in effort to achieve successful outcomes for clients presenting with various symptoms connected with sexual dysfunctions and concerns. As with any other diagnosis found in the DSM, medication management should be paired with psychotherapy. Through a combination of identifying, educating, treatment planning and processing, sex therapy helps individuals and couples reach more enjoyable, pleasurable and emotional intimacy.
Sex Therapy is incredibly similar to other forms of psychotherapy, yet ASSECT certified sex therapist have advanced training, knowledge and supervision on sex and sexual health.
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I am a member of AASECT and I have been training for the last four years towards Certification in Sex Therapist.
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A 50-minute session is $185.
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No, I am considered an out of network provider. Though, I can help you follow up with your insurance to see if they cover out of network reimbursement.
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My job is to work myself out of a job! I love, love, LOVE the work I am privileged to do. And, I also want clients to experience corrective change, which would limit the frequency of therapy. I meet with clients weekly at the beginning. Together, we discuss treatment along the way and we eventually will transition to biweekly, then to once a month! Previous clients are always welcome for “tune ups” as needed! It’s important that we keep those cobwebs out!
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No, I do not offer a sliding fee scale. I offer four pro-bono slots on my caseload per year.
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This happens and that’s okay! Therapy is for YOU! We know from research that the therapeutic alliance between clinician/client is the biggest indicator of change. If I am not the best fit for you, I will help you connect with a clinician to transition over to.
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Read this article to learn more.
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I do not offer a waitlist. Though, if I am not available and I do not have any upcoming discharges. I would be happy to provide referrals to colleagues that I trust and respect.
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Yes! I’ve offered virtual sessions since 2018!
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I see clients from 9am-4pm, Monday-Thursday.
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Card, Paypal, FSA or HSA.
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I have a 24-cancellation policy. If you cancel within 24 hours of your appointment, you will be billed for the hour.